Mormon speed dating
One friend observed that in her experience, such dry spells aren’t “uncommon in LDS circles, but *very* uncommon in secular/regular life [but see below].
The understood subtext to all dates adds an extra-weird pressure to LDS dating.
Another man, back in the dating game after many years, kindly responded to questions about the current climate: “LDS people are more likely to avoid opposite sex friendships which won’t lead to marriage, and I think that hurts us.
But some of those in the dating scene, especially those progressing into the fifth decade (and that fraction seems to be growing) may feel neglected to the point that dropping out feels inevitable.
He wonders if the lack of a serious significant other outside of an engagement is now relatively common.
I quote him: “I’ve watched my siblings go through this and it’s really awful.
So if it’s not someone you want to marry, break up and move on as soon as possible.” Here is a sequence of comments from a recent conversation on the subject of dating with a group of friends: I have several non-LDS friends who are my age and have either never had a boyfriend or have gone through decade-long dry spells.
I think dating is more trouble than it’s worth for a lot of people, and it just gets to be more trouble as you get older. There is definitely a generational shift on this, although I can’t say what the real norms are. I know lots of non-members who are non-daters as well.