Dating and connected
"In a healthy relationship, you and your partner can both thrive on your own, but feel great together also." dating safety and success coach, Teagin Maddox, tells Bustle.
When you are emotionally connected to your partner, there's no need to "negotiate" your basic wants, needs, and desires. "When you don’t want to risk rocking the boat for fear that it could cause a breakup, that's called 'peace keeper chaos,' not connection," she says.
Attachment and connection are two totally different things.
But if you're unaware of the differences, it's easy to confuse one for the other.
But if you want a fulfilling relationship that goes the distance, you need connection, not just attachment.
So here are some signs that you are attached to your partner but not emotionally connected, according to experts. As relationship expert Vikki Ziegler, tells Bustle, when this doesn’t happen you're likely to feel rejection and pain. "You'll think of your partner lovingly with passion and warmth," she says.
In some cases, people will stay in a relationship that's way past its expiration date because they're attached instead of finding a partnership that's truly emotionally fulfilling.
It's important to be real with yourself about what you really want in a relationship.
"Connection is a feeling of love," coach Nina Rubin, M. When you're truly loved, you can be yourself around your partner and not worry about them leaving you.
"An emotional connection is a bond between two people that's deeply rooted," relationship coach Jenna Ponaman, CPC, ELI-MP, tells Bustle.
"It's a mutual understanding and empathy of one another’s feelings, that allow each individual to create a deep appreciation, affection, and intimacy with one another." Attachment, on the other hand, feels a little more like infatuation.
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